Holding the Love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony as the means to acquire Self-knowledge or Brahma Gnana or Atma Gnana is erroneous, because the individuality has no place in in the realm of truth.

Spirituality is nothing to do with the religion. Thus Religion is concerned with belief in the claims to salvation of one faith tradition or another--an aspect of which is acceptance of some form of meta-physical or philosophical reality, including perhaps an idea of heaven or hell. Connected with this are religious teachings or dogma, ritual, prayers and so on.

Religion is also concerned with the human attributes such as love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony, which bring harmony within the society. Thus religion is good only for physical living (illusion) and it is a great obstacle in pursuit of truth. 

Love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony are part of the diversity. Without the sense of duality the Love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony ceases to exist. Holding the Love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony as the means to acquire Self-knowledge or Brahma Gnana or Atma Gnana  is erroneous, because the individuality has no place in in the realm  of truth.  It is only to discover what becomes dual (waking or dream) and what becomes non-dual (deep sleep) experiences.  Religion is greatest obstacle to get unity in diversity, because it is based on the individual self or  ego.  

The formless  soul  is the ocean; we all think we are individual waves in the ocean.  When we become aware of our true identity is Ocean (soul), the waves (ego) disappear and remains as Ocean. 

When we become aware of the all our human attributes such as love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony part of the wave, and is mere illusion on the standpoint of the Ocean ( soul). Thus we all are heading towards the ocean (soul) inspiring and encouraging each wave (individual) to realize it is not the wave but the Ocean (soul) thus let us hold each others hand move a head in this pursuit of truth  until we become one with the ocean (soul) which is non-dual.